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The Dark Side of People-Pleasing

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Henri Emile

About

Henri Emile

Henri Emile is a somatic coach for ambitious gay men who feel disconnected from the stereotypical gay 'scene' and mainstream masculinity. Having navigated the isolation of not fitting into either world, he built his own space—one dedicated to creating genuine connection, brotherhood, and healing for those who want more than superficial acceptance. Henri’s work challenges the societal narratives that keep gay men trapped in cycles of disconnection and self-doubt.

Drawing from his own journey of overcoming internalized homophobia and profound loneliness, Henri combines somatic and trauma-informed practices to guide his clients toward real belonging, deep growth, and personal freedom. His work offers a powerful path to living authentically and without apology—inviting gay men to embrace themselves fully and find connection on their own terms.

About This Episode

In this episode, Henri Emile explores the darker side of people-pleasing and discusses the misconceptions surrounding it. He shares personal stories and experiences of how people-pleasing has affected his life. Henri also delves into the negative aspects of people-pleasing, such as manipulation, lack of responsibility, and dishonesty. He provides insights on how to overcome people-pleasing, including developing awareness, setting boundaries, and building self-worth.

About

Henri Emile

Henri Emile is a somatic coach for ambitious gay men who feel disconnected from the stereotypical gay 'scene' and mainstream masculinity. Having navigated the isolation of not fitting into either world, he built his own space—one dedicated to creating genuine connection, brotherhood, and healing for those who want more than superficial acceptance. Henri’s work challenges the societal narratives that keep gay men trapped in cycles of disconnection and self-doubt.

Drawing from his own journey of overcoming internalized homophobia and profound loneliness, Henri combines somatic and trauma-informed practices to guide his clients toward real belonging, deep growth, and personal freedom. His work offers a powerful path to living authentically and without apology—inviting gay men to embrace themselves fully and find connection on their own terms.

Show Notes

In this episode, Henri explores the darker side of people-pleasing, sharing personal stories and highlighting its negative aspects like manipulation and dishonesty. He offers insights on overcoming people-pleasing by developing awareness, setting boundaries, and building self-worth.

Takeaways

  • People-pleasing is not always selfless and kind; it can have a darker side.
  • People-pleasing can stem from trauma or conditioned responses.
  • Saying yes when you mean no can lead to resentment and a loss of identity.
  • People-pleasing is a form of manipulation and a lack of responsibility.
  • Overcoming people-pleasing requires awareness, setting boundaries, and building self-worth.

Chapters

  • 00:00 Exploring the Darker Side of People-Pleasing
  • 08:11 The Manipulative Nature of People-Pleasing
  • 10:00 Lack of Responsibility and Boundaries
  • 11:24 Honesty and Integrity in Relationships
  • 25:08 Building Self-Worth to Overcome People-Pleasing

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