“It’s just business” is BS.
Nothing is just business.
You show up as your whole self at work–your personality, big T traumas, little t traumas, the argument you had with your s.o., the hangover from the night before, behavioral patterns, paradigms, parts, triggers–all of that comes to work with you.
Being “professional” means expressing yourself differently, but all that stuff is still part of the soup.
Only focusing on improving your communication skills, conflict resolution, productivity hacks, mindset, willing yourself to care, etc., all come from the mind, and they’re cold and lack connection.
Let’s call these the cold sciences.
It's the body that holds compassion and empathy, not the mind.
As a leader, I’ve gone through dozens of trainings that focus on educating your way to be a better leader, and they’re generic and boring at best and seem only to check a box. Because these trainings lack the connection to my internal circumstances, they ask nothing of us, so what's my motivation to evolve?
How often have you taken a leadership development course and not done a thing with it? Or maybe it didn't resonate with you at all?
When was the last time you felt triggered at work?
How many times have you had to push it down so you didn't make waves? What's the cost to you?
The deeper we go into this workplace revolution, I believe going beyond the mind is key.
It’s not enough to say you care about employee wellbeing; you need to feel it. Without feeling it, you’re most likely doing something performative, and trust me, everyone feels it when you’re doing something just to say you’re doing it.
Everyone.
The cold sciences are what got us here, and they're not going to get us there.
So if you wonder how you can 10x your impact as a leader, this is it.
It’s time leaders got out of their heads.
